Why is gay sex more fun

I often yearn for the simpler times before I came out of the ominous closet. It was easy for my adolescent brain to go through life with a sexual intent that was hardly met until I was allowed to travel in a packed local train with men of all shapes and sizes. The early years of exploring your sexuality are ideally the most thrilling because you never know who in your vicinity is going to end up becoming a random sexual experience.

One of my earliest experiences was chilling with my childhood buddy, playing video games, banging hot wheels into each other, and borrowing 10 rupees from our parents to go surfing at a cyber cafe. There, at the age of 14, we would freefall into the murky backalleys of early s internet pornography — the sorts that even after you shut the browser, a pop-up of a woman moaning kept returning on the desktop.

His mom would be out for work and his younger siblings would still be at school. A year later, the jerk-off sessions turned into handjobs, making out, and blowjobs. While it was mostly me on the giving end of it, I thought of it as early target practice, since today I am as gay as Easter Sunday.

However, today, my childhood friend is married and has a wife and kid of his own, and he even had a great pre-Covid wedding party. So what were those encounters? In my conversations with other gay and bisexual friends, I have found that each and every one of them has at least one sexual story where a straight man was involved.

Farhad also believes that other gay men should back off from defining what sexuality bracket these men fall under. In several such instances, straight men are even willing to go all the way and try things most gay men would shy away from. This is also common on porn websites and sites like OnlyFans where straight pornstars will have a male sex encounter because their gay fans demand it and are willing to pay for it.

Joe Kort, a renowned sex therapist, recently created a buzz on TikTok when why is gay sex more fun chose to dive into this phenomenon. He said there are several reasons why men who call themselves straight do this.

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Some men do it for money called gay for pay. Some men do it for financial domination, which is like BDSM without the rope. Some men suffer from homosexual obsessive compulsive disorder which is really just OCD attached to the worry that you might be homosexual. Kort also claims that gay men are more willing to engage in fantasy play, verbal play, and various sexual acts and fantasies that many women are uncomfortable with or disgusted by.

But obviously, such situations can be unnerving for some gay men. My friend Farhad once hooked up with an internet celebrity who was known to be extremely straight in his carefully crafted online world. Gaurav Deka, a trauma informed psychotherapist and coach, told VICE that sexual expression and sexual orientation are at two extreme ends of the spectrum.

Everything in between is often ever-evolving. So while we may argue that these people who call themselves straight and still find themselves on Grindr at midnight are actually spineless and lack courage, they are probably doing so in clear conscience as a way of survival.

On the other hand, psychologist and queer rights advocate Deepak Kashyap suggests that this experience of men having sex with men irrespective of their orientation or gender expression is also very Indian — or South Asian — in its nature. Follow Navin on Twitter. By Brent Koepp.

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